Open relationships, key points.
From our discussion earlier, we agree that being secure in a relationship allows openness to sexual experimentation with third (or fourth parties), this theory is confirmed by a quite smart Nurse/Counselor called Kathy Labriola and she discusses lots of interesting points on her site but spends an entire page on ‘MANAGING JEALOUSY IN OPEN RELATIONSHIPS’ and explains in the second paragraph that
“Jealousy is about fear–fear of the unknown and of change, fear of losing power or control in a relationship, fear of scarcity and of loss, and fear of abandonment. It is a reflection of our own insecurity about our worthiness, anxiety about being adequate as a lover, and doubts about our desirability.”
Henceforth, a secure enough person or persons will be able to manage their fears or hopefully have no fears at all and in these circumstances, the relationship is then strong enough to endure openness. Kathy goes on to explain that in a lot of cases she’s dealt with, one of the couple had insecurities about another aspect of their lives and that the affair or indulgence that the partner engaged in was only a trigger that upset the insecure person.
Its quite a subject to understand and rests on the security of individuals in relationships, of course greater security and confidence are almost always good things in any adventure we embark upon, so the main lesson is to be strong, believe in yourself, conquer your fears and live each darn day!
Mother Night